How to Talk to Anyone book summary in ENGLISH
Title: How to Talk to Anyone summary in ENGLISH
Author: Leil Lowndes
Friends, we all know that conversation is an art. But we are not taught this art anywhere in life. Neither in school nor in college.
No matter how many times we go to a party etc., we sit alone. If someone is sitting with you, then you cannot start talking to him.
Many times we think about which topic to talk about. Or even think that maybe the other person does not like to talk. But it didn't happen.
Everyone wants someone to talk to them. But no one really knows how to talk. For example, if someone comes and talks to you, you also like it.
Friends, talking is very important. This makes time pass. New friends are made. A lot of information or knowledge is also available. Sometimes it becomes necessary to talk even to get a job or work.
But most of the people do not know how to communicate properly. At the most, they become silent by saying hello or asking for their well being.
But friends, don't panic. How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes
Will solve this problem forever.
By reading the 92 tips given in the summary of this book, you can become an efficient speaker. People will want to talk to you for hours, and you will never think again – what to talk about?
How to Talk to Anyone book summary in ENGLISH
Friends, 92 tricks given in this book have been divided into parts. Let's read.
Part 1: How to attract the attention of others without uttering a single word?
10 techniques are given in this part. Which you can impress the person in front by using it in just ten seconds from the beginning.
1) Flooding smile
As soon as you meet someone, watch them closely (don't stare) for the first two minutes. Then give them a long - wide smile. This is called flooding smile.
With this, the person in front will also smile after seeing you. Because smile is contagious. This will make you an instant connection with him.
2) Use your eyes
Always talk to the other person with your eyes closed. This will make him look confident.
3) Sticky Eyes – If you are unable to make eye contact with the other person due to any hesitation, then you can use this technique.
First of all imagine that you have glue in your eyes. Now keep them glued to the eyes of the front.
4) Epoxy Eyes - Talk to the person you want to impress with your eyes closed. If anyone else starts talking to them. Even then you only see them. But be a little careful.
This will make them feel that you are considering them as your friend. He will also give you more attention.
5) Body Posture - Also pay attention to your walking and standing style. your head upright
Should be. Keep the shoulders slightly back and the stomach straight.
This will make you look very confident and attractive.
6) Big Baby - Look at the other person like a big baby. This will fill you with love and harmony. And start talking to him very lively.
7) Old friend technique - If you are hesitant to talk to a stranger, then think that he is an old friend of yours. Then meet him warmly in the same style. Like you meet your friends.
The person in front will also be forced to meet you in the same style.
8) Don't Fidget - Do not show restlessness and excitement while talking. Do not itch here and there. Due to this, the person in front will consider you a fool and he will not have any interest in talking to you.
9) Keep note of the body language of the other person. If he is getting bored with your words, then change the topic and talk about his interest.
10) If you are not feeling confident to talk to anyone then imagine that you are a celebrity or a good speaker. Your brain will become like that. And you will find it much easier to talk.
Part 2: Small Talk
11) Match the mood of the front. If he is serious then you should also talk seriously. If he is in the mood for jokes, then you should also joke.
Don't start talking too much literature or philosophy at once. First talk about some interesting news or latest incident.
12) Wear something in such a way that people come and ask themselves what it is? Or from where? If someone else has done this, you can also ask him about it.
13) First ask the other person about the person you want to talk to. Know about his interest in advance. This will make it easier to talk to.
14) If someone is talking to someone else and you want to talk to him, say - Excuse me, I heard you speak - and then start talking. This will make others interested in talking to you.
15) If someone asks where are you from, never be silent by answering one word. Ask Do you know where the mini Switzerland of India is or the city of lakes – say this with some wit and suspense. Give interesting answers to boring questions too.
16) Similarly, if someone asks what work you do, then use the above trick. The entertainment of the front will also happen. And he will mix with you too.
17) Never introduce anyone by directly mentioning his name. Rather add some suspense first.
Like – Do you know where to get the best pizza in town? He is the owner of the same restaurant Mr XYZ.
18) Capture other's words like a Spy. Make the topic of conversation only the words of interest they have used.
19) Keep the focus of the conversation on the front. not on himself. With this, the person in front will want to talk to you for hours.
20) Parrot technique - What has been spoken by the front. Ask it like a question by saying the last 2-3 words over and over again. The conversation will not end with this. And it will go on.
21) Ask others to tell an anecdote or story to prolong the conversation. This will also make the atmosphere very interesting.
22) If someone asks you about your life experiences, then tell only positive things. Never do negative things or do evil to others. This will make you look weak.
23) Latest News: Whenever you go to any party or gathering, then read the newspaper of that day. Or go by checking the news on mobile itself. With this, the topics of your conversation will never end. But be wise. Don't bore others.
24) Don't ask the other person what you do. Rather ask how you spend your time. He himself will tell you about his profession. If someone in front asks you what do you do. So you tell in such a way that the person in front feels that he will get a lot of benefit from you.
25) Thesaurus - Analyze yourself and see which words you use the most. Then find their alternative in the dictionary. Because with similar words, the front gets bore while with new words the person in front gets impressed with you.
26) Memorize the top 20 idioms and use them in one or two conversations. By this everyone will remember you. Because the idiom will leave a deep impression in his mind.
27) Me too - Never express your selfishness at once. Like if you have to take help from the front
So do not start asking for help only after two or three things. Make a good rapport first. when it happens
You can have your say. Give the other person a chance to speak openly first.
28) Compliment - Always compliment the person in front. If you are not able to give on clothes etc. then praise his nature.
29) The Exclusive Smile - Don't always give the same smile. If you meet a person on different occasions, smile a little differently. Otherwise, the person in front will find your smile fake.
30) Avoid Cliché – Never say clichéd dialogues, idioms, jokes or sarcasm. By this people will see you as stupid.
31) Do remember some selected anecdotes or motivational story. And listen when you get a chance. But they should be such that no one has heard till today.
32) Never apply a mask to anyone. Never give false compliments. Praise sincerely. Otherwise people will find you a sycophant.
33) Do not make fun of any person in the group to make yourself look smart. Often people make fun of a weak person by making him a goat. But by this intelligent people understand that you are fake. You don't have values. They will not speak all this on your face. But an opinion will be formed about you. And you will never be able to climb in their eyes.
34) Understand the sentiment of the child in front and talk. If they are showing mercy to an elderly then you should do the same. With this, you will seem like minded to them.
35) If you ask a personal question, then you should give a professional answer to it. And give the same answer every time. Due to this the person in front will be silent.
36) If you talk to any celebrity, then definitely tell them how you got inspiration from their work. But it shouldn't be a lie. While talking to the CEO of such a company, tell him that he was very happy to work in his company.
37) Never just say thank you. Also mention the help that the person in front has helped with him. With this, the person in front will remember you for a long time. Because by this you will make them feel important.
38) Do a few different things in life. Things you haven't done before. Like going on trekking somewhere, travel to a new place. With this, you will have very interesting topics to talk about. Because when you tell the stories of your travel to the people, they will also get inspiration. And they will be very eager to listen to you.
39) If you go anywhere for an interview, then do your homework first. Check the profile of the company. This will bring depth to your interview.
40) Also find out what is the hot topic or issue going on in that company nowadays. Maybe they talk to you about the same.
41) Many times people also have blogs on any industry. Do read them too. Because people have also shared their personal experiences in the blog. With this you get in-depth knowledge.
42) If you are traveling somewhere, first read about their customs. They will be impressed by your little knowledge. And will start telling you more. With this, the conversation will also go smoothly.
43) If you want to join any industry, first learn their language. Every industry has its own language
it occurs. This will allow people to mingle with you quickly.
44) Study the way of talking, moving and getting up - of the people you want to impress. And then behave like them. They will treat you as their own. And you will open more.
45) Use more words that others are using. This will also bring people closer to you.
46) While talking, definitely give an example to understand a complicated matter.
47) While talking only am - yes no. Rather talk in complete sentences. Otherwise people will lose interest in you.
48) If someone tells his problem, then give him sympathy first. Then offer a solution. This will deepen the connection between both of you.
49) Don't express your opinions if you want to make an intimate connection with someone. Rather respect the opinion of the other person. Because if there is no Opinion match, that person will distance from you.
50) If you have ever met with someone on any occasion, then mention a funny anecdote from that time.
With this the person in front will also be involved.
Part 3: Instant Rapport
51) Praise people not only in front of them but also behind their backs. The praise given behind the back is the only honest compliment to people. If someone told that you were praising them. So they will consider you as a genuine person and this will create friendship between you two.
52) Share good news to others in bad times. Encourage them too.
53) Do not do evil to anyone.
54) Always show interest in quality things while talking. Do not start praising cheap and cheap things. Only then will you be considered a man of great taste.
55) Sometimes while talking about work, praise him. For example, you are so fit. You will do this work easily.
56) Give direct compliments only when the other has really done some commendable work. And do it from the heart.
57) Even when someone does a small work, praise him well. This will make him want to help you even more.
58) When someone does work, praise him at that time. If you delay then it will not matter.
59) If someone praises you, thank him and in return praise him for it.
60) Ask people what do you want written on your grave? Pay attention when they tell. Because people choose it very carefully. From this you can understand the philosophy of his life. (But this tip is only for Christian people)
Part 4: Phone Etiquette
61) Do not listen silently while talking on the phone. Rather give your response by speaking.
62) That person's name should be taken several times while talking. This increases the proximity.
63) Before answering the phone, speak in a neutral tone. But when you hear your name, talk happily.
64) If a member of other's family picks up the phone, then talk to them in a friendly manner.
65) Always ask – are you free to talk now? Or can we talk now?
66) If you want to send voicemail, keep your greeting short and clear.
67) Leave a clear and confident message if you want to leave a voice message. Might as well make it interesting.
68) If you want to call another country, then also check their list of Holidays. Do not call office-work on festivals.
69) Always ask about family members. This will also increase intimacy.
70) Do not call late.
Part 5: Parties
71) No one wants to approach us while having food. Therefore, do not eat food when the person you want to talk to is free. Seeing you account, he will not come to talk to you.
72) As soon as you enter the room, stop at the first door and scan the whole room.
73) Choose yourself to whom you want to talk. Don't let a boring person come and talk to you. and waste your time.
74) The way you stand also matters. Keep your hands open, not tied. With this you seem friendly.
75) Remember people's past sayings. and mention them. Like how was your journey? Or how is your hand now?
76) Make notes of the conversation with whomever you want to impress. Like what does he like, or what plan has he mentioned about etc. By this you will remember his words. Then mention it in the next conversation. He will not be able to live without being impressed by you.
77) Also understand the body language of the front. Then keep changing the attitude of your conversation in the same way.
78) Ignore the mistakes of others. Don't make fun of or insult them.
79) If someone is saying something. And in the meantime there should be an obstacle. So after that ask them – then what happened next or were you saying something.
80) If someone is going to a meeting, then give a hint to others in advance that what benefit they are going to get in this.
81) If someone gives your number, do not call immediately. Talk at least after a day.
This will not make you look desperate.
82) Do not think of taking advantage of the opportunity immediately. Do not think that the front has become friendly, now I keep my point. This will only make you look selfish and greedy.
83) If you are meeting someone for dinner, do not forget about business. People do dinner to enjoy in leisure. Even at that time, if you start talking about business or work, then they will not like you.
84) If you meet anyone in the party, don't start asking for favors or work right away. People come to enjoy the party. Not to be bothered by people.
85) If you meet someone suddenly, then talk full of friendship. Do not start talking about work or asking for any work. With this they will think that you were probably stalking them. Initially just focus on increasing the report. You will see that if they trust you, they will automatically ask you for work.
86) If someone is keeping his important point. So let's get them done first. After that keep your word. Never cut off the talk of others. Don't be hasty.
87) If someone is upset then understand his emotion. And talk accordingly. Lest you start blaming him. If it is also wrong then later you can give indirect suggestion. Initially just be sympathetic.
88) If you break someone's thing, then send a beautiful replacement later.
89) If you see someone doing something, give them a chance to save themselves. Don't tell everyone or start making fun of them. By this they will always respect you.
90) Give good feedback of an employee to his boss. With this he will always give you quality service. And will also respect.
91) Be the first to do the clapping. And do so with enthusiasm. In the same way, give compliments first.
92) Never cross your limits. Learn to use silence even at times.
End.
So friends, this was the summary of this book in Hindi.
Start the practice of using the 92 tips given in this book. Soon you will become a fun speaker. And you will be able to attract people towards you. With this, both your charisma and personality will improve.
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